How common is it these days to say something like this: “I am trying to be positive!”, or “Be positive!”, or “Take it positive!”, etc
What is the meaning of these phrases and how does our subconscious mind perceive it?
How does the phrase and state of constantly “Be positive” may affect us at the end? After reading this article some attentive readers may give up with the a bit paranoiac idea to “be positive” right here and forever.
How subconscious mind works:
1. Subconscious mind would seek it at any cost
If one is consciously persistent with the idea to be positive at any cost, subconscious mind would seek it too, even till the edge of toxic positivity.
A real story from the past
The first, and definitely the most shocking story about toxic positivity I learned from school. There was a naughty cheerful boy, a few years younger than us, around twelve years old. He was younger, a kid, but anyway he was well known among pupils of his age, younger and older, because of his laugh, jokes, and active mood. As now, I remember his smiling face, joyful shouts through school corridors. If there was something to laugh from during a break – he was probably there too, as an initiator.
One day instead of classes we gathered for a funeral. The cheerful boy has hanged on a door handle. The boy. At the age of twelve. It was a tragedy not only for the family, but a huge shock for all who knew him. How? Why? So young, a kid! So happy with life!
From the present time
I added one video to “watch later” on You Tube on September 19, 2020. I wanted to share it with a friend of mine who said she is trying so hard to be positive. However, before sharing I always check what is in. As I said, I added the video to “watch later” but eventually forgot about it for a few months….
The video was probably not only for a friend of mine, the video was dedicated for me too…
But I see people around are the same, hooked on being positive.
The author of the video could seem a bit young for such a deep research and mindful experience, we used to see an older person talking this way. But you know, at the age of five I knew more about life than decades later. When you want to hear the truth – listen to the youth:)
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Another video, worth to watch
Way to broaden the patterns
Maybe instead of a smile through clenched teeth and instead of cheerful face, covered with tears a few moments ago, maybe just to be yourself? And translate a state of being AS IT IS in real, so that to overcome it and go further normally? So that to share a smile, not a toxic smile, to share laugh, not a fake laugh, to share love, not a fake love.
We used to react according a few narrow standard patterns: a) to complain or b) to keep the troubles inside. But no! One could surely tell to a friend/colleague/talker: “Look, today it is just a hard day for me, lets talk later”. So, first of all, by taking this position you do not lie to others, but what is the most important – you do not suppress yourself by fake “official” emotions.
Remove the fake emotional mask and BE HAPPY!
We liberate ourselves from a net of toxic positivity when negative emotions or experience are expressed, or stated and accepted.